AskHim-Are We What We Wear?

Another Tuesday, another AskHim question This week, we have Lia's question on generalization amongst men and women and what we think of what the other wears.

Do men judge women according to what they wear? And if so, how exactly are they categorized?  For instance, when just playfully browsing, I find myself determining whether or not I'd date a guy based off of what he is wearing alone.  My friends and I have categorized business men, artists, casanovas, bums, etc. based on what they were wearing (whether we were right or not, probably wrong but just having fun guessing lol).   Not to be shallow, but I'm a firm believer that what we wear and how we wear it represents our minds to a certain degree.  I'm just wondering if guys register this the same way because quite frankly, I see some pretty well put together men dating the most opposite of women.

Thanks,

Lia

Hi Lia - Thanks very much for writing in to us. It's very much appreciated. I like your question. It's great. It's a true reflection on something both sexes do, but try to pretend that they don't. We all do it. We judge, we generalize, it's in our nature. We can't help it.

So, yes, men do judge women according to what they wear. Any guy who says he doesn't, is either a liar, or completely oblivious to women. We categorize women very simply..sophisticated, elegant, slutty, and clueless. Any guys who disagree with me out there, please feel free to jump right in and correct me or add more categories. Personally, I think that more categories will be added if guys do decide to jump in.

The way a woman dresses might not necessarily determine whether a guy would date them or not, mainly because, usually, a guy is wondering whether they would sleep with him or not. Of course, if the girl is slutty, the guy immediately thinks 'score' and would be one of a number of guys trying to 'win' her over. Let's be honest, by saying 'not to be shallow' means exactly that. We are shallow. And we would be lying if we said we aren't. I mean seriously, if a really ugly or badly dressed guy approaches you in a bar, would you really continue a conversation with them? No, you definitely won't. It's not about his personality or anything like that because you won't get to know his personality because you've already brushed him off.

We are shallow. Just admit it. The world would be a much better place with this kind of honesty. Guys reject girls and girls reject guys based on their initial impression. And usually, this is looks. We see it everyday, where gorgeous girls are with, let's face it, ugly guys, and vice versa. This usually happens because they are initially friends or are introduced or are part of the same group of friends, where one would give the other the chance and talk because it's polite. From there we get to know one's personality and it can progress.

I don't think it's possible for us to stop with this generalizing, and seeing as both men and women do it alike, we're both as bad as each other. Let's just be honest.

So there's another AskHim Tuesday done and dusted.  Please keep those questions coming in.  Send them to AskHim@cmarchuska.com.  Thank you again to Lia for her honest question.  Most of us guys definitely wish there were more honest girls out there like Lia Enjoy the rest of your week and feel free to comment with your own opinion on this week's question.